The 2 Fs

"You have no concern for your Family...... all you can think about is your Friends" said Person A....... 

Family and Friends.... both have a different role to play in a person's life....... Some say Friends can never be your Family and Family can never be your Friends..... But I say.... No..... There is time in your life where your Friends can become your extended Family......When you have that good relation with them.... That moment when Your friend becomes your family is the most special moment of your life..... because the person whom we call our friend has that unbreakable bond with us.

When you are Happy you feel like sharing it with that person, When you are sad you feel like telling it to that person first, Where there is no fear of the other person judging you.... They have known you at your best and at your worst..... 

I feel Comparison between Friend and family is the most insensitive a person can do..... The place which friends hold in our life and family holds in our life are two different places..... The people who tell that think there is a exchange offer going on in life where friends are replaced by family......

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But the truth is Friend is a Friend and Family is Family.....both have differentiated places in our life.

   

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Thank You..... :) 

Innocent Rapist?????

I am not a regular writer but I certainly like to pen my thoughts and from past two days only one thought is eating me up..... Is it a crime to be born as a girl?? Is a crime to go out with ur friend at night? And is it tat easy to rape n murder a girl with no fault of hers and just because she went out with her friend at night which was "very late" according to the rapists and they in the documentary India's Daughter shamelessly accept their crime and tell that it was not their fault and it was the girls fault for which they were teaching her a lesson. What lesson I ask.... A lesson that she should not come out late at night???? Why? 
Doesn't she have the right to live her life to the fullest? Doesn't she have the right to decide what to wear, where to go and with whom to go? I think it is those people need to be thought lesson about how to respect a woman. 
Its been 3 years since the horrible incident in Delhi which shook the Nation but has our judiciary taken any strict actions against the criminals? No they failed to give justice. The crime which they did was not of burglary or a small chain snatch they brutally raped and murdered a young girl and the youngest criminal was swmet free with a compensation of 10,000 and a sewing machine to make his life good? Wow.. I mean hats off it is certainly a lesson for all minors that u rape a girl and u will be set free with compensation and a short span of jail. 
Why does our system fail to give punishments? If he has committed a major crime his punishment should also be major why to treat him differently from other criminals? Even he should serve the punishment what others get.
And maybe this all is because of our mindsets that today's generation sees a girl merely as a material. There are some who don't but majorly they do think like that. We always ask a girl how her dress should be like. How should she behave etc.... And do we even bother to ask boys what the hell are they doing? Do we teach them how to look at a girl? Maybe no because its our mindset that boundaries are set only for girls and boys are free to do anything and everything under the sun. This is the main reason why we are suffering these days. Taking out candle marches and strikes won't help anyone to get justice but if we change our thoughts we can change our society and on a serious note youth should take a stand very strongly on this.
JUSTICE DELAYED IS JUSTICE DENIED and no doubt that justice for Nirbhaya is denied with her rapist set free.

FRIENDS MAKE LIFE BEAUTIFUL AND WORTH :) :*

Friends are the family which we select. There are a number of ways when a friend helps us maybe in different situations of life....in different ways.....but they are always there with us. They laugh with us on our silly jokes....make us laugh when we believe that we can't even Smile :),they know all our secrets, our best friend has not heard about moments of our life but have lived them with us...... There are number of ways when FRIEND makes our life better from bitter even in worst kind of situations they don't stop supporting or trusting us. They identify,bring out and make us realize what is our Potential. We can say.... "HAR EK FRIEND ZAROORI HOTA HAI :) :)

1) Encourage us. Friends believe in us. As a result, they offer both the words and the support we need to become better people in all aspects of life.

2) Challenge us. Friends recognize deficiencies in our life. They challenge us to embrace and succeed in making these healthy, life-giving changes.

3) Motivate us. In every regard, it is highly motivating to know that someone loves you, believes in you, and is cheering for you.

4) Listen to us. Friends open their ears and hearts to our words. A listening ear communicates value, trust, and openness. And a listening ear provides the opportunity for our thoughts to disentangle themselves.

5) Celebrate with us. Full joy is never realized until it has been shared with others – that’s why we immediately call our friends when something good happens. Friends celebrate with us in victory and make our joy complete.

6) Grieve with us. Life is full of ups and downs. Friends make the high points higher and the low points bearable.

7) Support our contributions. Friends recognize the value we contribute to the world and the beauty we offer to it. They look forward to our contributions and promote them to others.

8) Keep us honest. Friends know us best. They know our strengths… and they recognize our weaknesses. Because of their intimate knowledge of who we are, they keep us honest with each other and with ourselves.

9) Add joy to our lives. According to a study from the Harvard Medical School, the more friends a women had, the more likely they were to be leading a joyful life. There is likely some correlation between being joyful and having friends… but clearly the inverse is also true.

10) Improve our health. Studies also indicate that authentic friendships actually result in better health. These relationships make healthy habits easier to adopt and the body more likely to heal itself.

11) Provide opportunity for influence. Trust always precedes influence. Sometimes trust can be earned quickly (books, experts, studies), but other times it can take years of living life together. Friendships – life lived in relationship with others – offers trust and influence.

12) Provide opportunity for sacrifice. Giving always benefits the receiver and the giver. True friendships require sacrifice. And in that sacrifice, both lives are improved.

Of course, those of you who already have good friends understand these realities. In that case, take some time today to be reminded of their importance in your life. Adjust your life accordingly. Extend gratitude where needed or change your priorities as necessary to further invest yourself into them.
But there are a number of people who will read this post and desperately desire the level of intimacy and longing mentioned above. You have sought these friendships for years and yet, for one reason or another, they have eluded you. Or you had them at one time, but they have since disappeared from your life. Take heart. And never lose hope.

The path to discovering these authentic relationships is always the same. It will require risk, trust, and honesty. It will require sacrifice and intentional investment. It will require you to give and give and give some more and it will require you to become the very friend you desperately desire. But in the end, it will be worth every ounce of energy you commit to it.

So..... time to refresh some memories with your TRUE and SPECIAL friends....Do share your experiences with us.....And yes tell that special friend how important is he/she important :) :)

THE HANGOVER :P

           
It was a day before Holi,festival of colors. I was too much excited for it. Generally we have a Holika Dahan on that day which is also called as Holika Pooja after which only we are supposed to play Holi. It is done in a temple near my house. And the speciality of that day is the THANDAI ka parasad what we get that evening. It doesn't have any contents of Bhaang which is our assumption ;) ;) as there are kids and older people who drink it... :) So this year I decided that I am going to drink atleast 2 glasses of it coz they are given half filled :p So as soon as I  reached temple I met my relatives who were there. And then my cousin's son came to me and gave me a glass of thandaai. I drank it in a sip. After drinking it I realized that it tasted different from the thandaai which I had the previous year. :p But it tasted really very good..... I liked it and thought that may be they have added some ingredient in it :). Then I had to wait for my dad to do Pooja as we are supposed to do it with family... While I was waiting for him my cousin came and he offered me to do a competition of drinking Thandaai which I had to agree :p altogether I had 7-8 glasses of thandaai which was really too much for me to handle and as expected I got tipsy :p :p LOL ;) ;) I started  to blabber all kind of stuff....the thing which I blabbered the most was to my mom that "mom I have not drunk bhaang" I was continuously blabbering it......
After Pooja when we came back home I was still not alright I was still blabbering and laughing :p so my mom decided that if I keep on blabbering like this I may go mad :p and as we have a custom to eat cold food on the day of holi, we had to prepare Theplas for the next day :) so after returning from temple my mom asked me to make Theplas :p ;) and guess what I literally made Theplas till the affect of bhaang was over :p :p LOL and the next day..... I didn't remember a thing from last night.....it is when my mom told me I came to know the blooper I had done and yes my cousins had a hearty laugh at my expense by telling it to all people possible :p :p
So this was when I drank Bhaang unknowingly...... :p :p :p
Yaaa and then I have NOT took any resolution of not drinking it again :p
But yes have decided not to drink to an extent that I cannot handle myself :p :p
Do share your experiences with us :)

Life of a Woman in our society.

May be the topic which you read just now would sound a bit common for you. You may tell what is this about?? I mean its all known to all how a girl lives in a society. But only a girl knows how she survives in this society. In our country where people worship Goddess Durga, Lakshmi, Kali...... they don't want a girl child to be born in their house. May I know why??? Why is it so that a girl is considered as a burden on the parents??? A daughter is always a daughter to her parents no matter where she is, how old she is, etc... she will always be concerned about her parents, sibling even if she is far away from them.

We teach a girl how to behave,dress,talk,do all the household chores, etc..... A girl is not only a girl she is a daughter,a sister,a wife,a mother, she plays each of these roles as and when the time calls for it. She at a very young age starts to give up her toys to her younger siblings, She many a times gives up on her dreams for the sake of her parents, after getting married her only priority is supposed to be her in-laws..... why?? How can we expect a girl to forget all the relations which she had with her parents, her siblings and the memories whom she spent her life till date. Then even after doing so many sacrifices, she is treated in a very bad manner by them.

Why isn't a girl safe when she is walking in broad day-light? Why is she always discriminated? Even as a reproductive machine, a woman’s life is worth only if she produces a son. Tradition and scriptures reinforce societal biases against the girl thus, “the birth of a girl grant it elsewhere, here grant us a son”. There are sayings that really bring down the respect of a Woman. Is bringing up a girl child just like keeping safe someone's property?? It is a def no a girl always listen this from her parents that she is some one else's responsibility on them and then at her in-laws home she is always told that she belongs to someone else so cannot mingle as promptly and ultimately that is also not her house in short the house where she was born and bought up is also not her home and sadly the house which she is been married into is also not hers. So can those people answer where is she supposed to go?

 

Today, a woman has to fight for her existence right from the beginning. May be it killing her in the womb of her mother or even she survives in the womb then is constantly been taunted for the reason being a girl. Throughout life she gives away her happiness for the sake of others and sadly there is no one to see it or appreciate it.

I feel if this is life of a woman in today's century which is worst than hell sometimes then the life of women was far more good in the 19th century they had respectful life atleast they didn't have the fear of walking alone in the roads.

Maybe its time for us to empower ourselves and take our stand because if not us then no one will take a stand for us.

This article doesn't intend to hurt feelings of anyone. It is just a general topic discussion which is going on at present situation in our country.

The REAL Reason We Lose So Many Friends In Our 20s!

If you thought your teens were a confusing time, wait till your twenties! Those in it will vouch for it being the most exciting, liberating, perplexing times of their life – and, frankly, we couldn’t agree more. What makes them so, you ask? Well, we are changing, learning, metamorphosing and growing…and there are certain things that come as consequences – losing friends, for instance. No, it’s certainly not something you are imagining! We all tend to lose friends in our twenties and here’s the real reason why.

1. Road To Self Discovery

Our twenties are a time of self discovery. As we journey through life we figure out who we really are…quirks, habits and all. Sometimes, old friends don’t fit into this new version of ourselves and, as a result, they get left off.

2. The Priorities Principle

The older you grow, the more you realize that life is basically just another name for a game called priorities. (Wah! So deep. We surprise ourselves sometimes.) In our twenties, we basically have to balance our priorities. No matter what you choose, though, if you don’t manage your friendships along the way, they get left off somewhere.

3. The Hustle

Our twenties are undoubtedly the time we have to make a name and a living for ourselves. Some of us are more determined to do this than others! The ones who don’t understand our need to focus on our career somehow get left behind in the bargain.

4. Excuses, Excuses

Sometimes we use this “hustle” as a mere excuse to not meet our friends, to not make plans, to not hold onto the things that matter. This is neither right and nor are we claiming it is…but it tends to happen, trust us!

5. The Empathy Angle

In our twenties, what tends to happen is that we all are dealing with our own struggles. So while your friend is stuck in the job they hate, you are probably struggling with the pressure to find a suitable groom. The point is, everyone has their own stresses. But if we start to believe that ours are more important/ real/ tough than those of our friends, we tend not to empathize with them. This often leads to conflict amongst even the best of friends.

6. The Shaadi Effect

While it’s sad, it’s also true! We tend to lose touch with our friends when they get married. As they get absorbed into their new role of wife and daughter-in-law, we talk to them less and less, and this leads to a complete disconnect. Take note, though – this is not anybody’s fault in particular! Plus this trend is now changing, with girls balancing their lives and friendships so much better even after marriage! Thank God for small mercies! 

7. The Money Factor

When we are growing up, the money angle seldom comes between friends. But unfortunately, as we grow up, it seems to sneak its way into our lives. In your twenties, you start earning and that determines how you lead your life. Some of your old friends may not be able to adapt or may not want to adapt to your new lifestyle – whether it’s frugal or extravagant. This is one of the leading causes of friendships to sour!

8. No Drama Zone

As you grow older, you typically have lesser tolerance for drama. You are not a teenager anymore and you don’t like gossip and backbiting. You like to surround yourself with good vibes and people you can innately trust. This leaves no space for frenemies – friends who are actually enemies, err…no, thank you! And definitely no space for that dramebaaz girlfriend who calls you at 2 a.m. sobbing, because her boyfriend broke up with her (AGAIN!) – because frankly, you have a meeting in the morning and you need to sleep! We totally understand this.

9. No Judging, Please!

As we said earlier, our twenties are full of self-discovery…as they should be! There are some friends who will hold your hand and make them beautiful while there are some who will judge you every time you do something they wouldn’t do. But everyone has different circumstances, and needless to say, you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. Naturally, you tend to cut these friends out.

10. No Flaky Business!

You know that friend who always says “Let’s meet!” and you keep Friday night free for your plans only to see a text from them at the last minute that says “Something came up”? Yeah, we get it – there’s no place in your life for that flaky friend. If they cared enough, they wouldn’t *always* do this! So yeah, they pretty much don’t feature on your friends’ list anymore. That’s life, we guess! 

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COLLEGE DAYS :) :) THE UNFORGETTABLE DAYS OF LIFE :)

The most remarkable days or the days which we remember throughout our life after school days are THE COLLEGE DAYS.....The days when we actually enjoy our life,the feeling of being INDEPENDENT after the PRISON kind of School life....which is also of course very good...... The mixed emotion which we have during those days leaving behind the friends with whom we "GREW UP" sharing silly and stupid jokes,getting punishments and not to forget the label of THE WORST BATCH SEEN BY THE TEACHER"..... :P :P :P in His/Her career..... LOL :P

It is just like getting out of our comfort zones and doing things. It is a time when we discover the world on ourselves with a little nervousness and a lot of excitement. It is when we proudly introduce ourselves as "college going students" leaving behind :school going kid" and the statement which we all were tired of hearing ABHI TUM BACCHE HO.....KUCH SAMAJ NAHI AAYEGA TUMHE, JAANTE HI KYA HO TUM DUMIYADAARI KE BAARE ME etc.... never ending list..... undoubtedly we are not that grown but yes we do get involved in small things.

This is a period when we generally experience all kind of mixed emotions and feelings like Crush,Love,One sided Love etc......,we start feeling independent and try all new things such as pubs,discs,drink,Long drive with friends, planning a weekend trip with friends which was obviously not allowed till now :P :P and many other new and different things which sometimes may also turn out to be a disaster :) :P :P :P but still it will always be as a memory which can never be erased from our hearts..... the memories which we give to each other........

Stay connected to know more of our college days fun n experiences..... also do share with us your memorable times which you had with your friends writing it down would just be like re-living the most wonderful days of your life!!!!!! So do share :) :) :)